I really feel blessed to have come across THIS BLOG a long time ago. It is no small thing in the hair-blog world to find someone that is so clearly making hair a priority but not the end all be all. Her words were deep encouragement to me as I struggled to keep three little crowns kept and cared for. She really put words to what I had been feeling. People try to elevate hair care to a place it was never intended to be. Are they delicate locks that need unique attention? Absolutely. Should we scream (if even only in our hearts) “NOOOOOO!!! I just did your hair!!!” as they roll and scamper about. Heaven forbid they want to go swimming!!! There are cultural standards (from non-blacks and blacks alike–though differently) that need to be challenged. But that is only going to happen one kid at a time. One family at a time. So hear me say this. Hair care is important. VERY important. It needs time and attention and love. If you ever stop them from being kids because of hair or communicate to them that certain activities are not for them because of hair, you are failing their hearts miserably. Let them be kids. Let their childhood trump their curl care. Always and always.
Here is Elijah at the beach. I enjoyed him enjoying the beach. I hope he becomes a surfer. I didn’t once flinch at his curls being covered in sand or how many washes it would take to get it out. It didn’t matter. Because my son experienced the love of the beach and that means more to me than hair.